Walking with Your Spouse through Uncertainty

Walking with Your Spouse in the Uncertainty

Our relationship started wrapped in mystery; I was doing a research paper debunking the science behind online dating and came across his profile. He lived five hours away, but he was cute and his picture was clearly of him on a mission trip. That’s the Western Christian Girl’s aphrodisiac. A quick message sent, followed by emails and late-night phone calls. I was … [Read more...]

Cut Through the Clutter :: 6 Thoughtful Evangelical Responses to the Supreme Court Marriage Ruling

Cutting Through the Clutter

You don't need us to tell you that today was a hard day. Processing the meaning and ramifications of the Supreme Court's decision to legalize gay marriage was difficult enough, but seeing the reaction from all sides on social media made some of us want to go crawl in the bed and wake up tomorrow--or even some time next week when the world has moved onto a new topic. But we … [Read more...]

7 Ways Married Couples Can Serve Singles in the Church


With singles now comprising over half of the American population, many of you probably have some really good friends who are single. And if you spend any time talking to them, you’ll hear them lament that they struggle to find their place in the local church. If you think about it, so much of what takes place in church life is geared towards married couples and families. … [Read more...]

Sunday Mornings Matter

The Power of You and Your Spouse’s ‘Hello’

If you and your spouse are comfortably integrated into a church home, let me be the first to say, “Congratulations!” Now this letter is for you: There is a group of us who haven’t found our church home yet. We lay in bed on Saturday nights, and we go back and forth with our spouse on which church we should attend the following morning. Sunday mornings are not an oasis … [Read more...]

When Your Marriage Sparks a Deacons’ Meeting

When Your Marriage Sparks a Deacons Meeting

What if you fell in love with a Godly man or woman, sought the Lord and other wise counsel about your relationship, yet you still encountered opposition within your personal families and even within the Church? Vincent and Casie Smith know that struggle firsthand. An interracial couple, they walked a bumpy road to the altar because many--even within the Church--did not … [Read more...]

Your Wife Is Uniquely Equipped: Invest in Her

Your Wife Is Uniquely Equipped: Invest in Her

I watched my wife as she sat there, reading through Scripture with her friend, Bible commentaries scattered around the little round table where they sat. Add in a cup of coffee, and this is an everyday sight where we live. But this was a communist country on the opposite side of the world, where having access to Bible commentaries is actually kind of mind blowing. My … [Read more...]

The Power of My Husband’s Encouragement


So, so many things compete for our attention daily—work, home, church, children, laundry, and even Facebook. For women, motherhood alone can become so consuming that it can be easy to ignore, or inadvertently overlook, the things that God is calling us to do because there’s just so much on our plates already. If anyone knows the power of a husband’s encouragement towards … [Read more...]

More Than Buddies: Pursuing Male Friendships


“Every single time we hang out, it’s basically an hour or two, at the most. I always have to initiate and it takes months to nail down.” “Babe, we had dinner with him and his wife a month ago. He’s just busy. Don’t overthink it.” “I know…I just…I wish he’d occasionally send me a text to ask how I’m doing. I stay in communication with him, and he usually responds, but … [Read more...]

Confessions of a Young Pastor

Confessions of a Young Pastor

I am a young pastor, 34-years-old, first church (though I would love to stay here a lifetime). Seven years have passed as pastor, and I have been loved well by my faith family. Sometimes—actually, almost every time—the acts of love most meaningful to my wife, Cole, and I were those which people most underestimated. Here are three acts of love which we’ve observed and from which … [Read more...]

When Obedience Means Walking Away from a Steady Paycheck

My Jonah Experience

Three Christmases ago I was in a Cracker Barrel, fist-pumping near the roaring fireplace as I read a long-expected email on my phone. The email was from a job prospect which promised an exit from my role in a large Fortune 50 technology company and back into more ministry-related work. I would be able to keep a corporate-world salary, but I would be interacting with some of the … [Read more...]