3 Habits You’ll Be Glad You Established as a Newlywed

My husband D.J. and I met one fall night during our junior year of high school. I wouldn’t exactly say it was love at first sight, but it was definitely a love that developed over time. One of my favorite things about our relationship is that it took about a year and a half for it to go from friendship to a dating relationship. It’s a good thing too because, little did we know, … [Read more...]

Loving Your Spouse in the Ordinary

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My wife has a quality that I'm pretty sure I don't have. My wife loves for our lives to be as tidy as they can be. She LOVES when the house is clean. I'm not as adamant about the house being kept. Yes, it is nice to come home to a clean house, but I'm just as happy when it is a little messy. Life is messy, isn't it? If it wasn't for her, our house would be a wreck. We … [Read more...]

Are Your Bad Habits Breaking Your Marriage?

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My daughter, Sadie, has a very typical 11-year-old kind of bad habit: whining. Just for fun one day, I counted the times I had to say the words “tone of voice” to her, and that particular day it was thirteen. Thirteen is at least twelve times too many, so I decided it was time we had a real talk about her bad habit. In the middle of the conversation she said something … [Read more...]

When My Spouse’s Love Language Creeps Me Out

When My Spouse's Love Language Creeps You Out

Let me be completely honest: I am not a hugger. I don’t like greeting or leaving people with a hug; I feel weird when people play with my hair or touch my arm. I am just not a touchy person. My husband, however, is a touchy person. He loves hugs, hand-holding, and shows his affection with physical touch. As you can guess, this created a bit of friction for our first few … [Read more...]

How We Boost Our Marriage Without a Date Night or Vacation

How We Boost Our Marriage Without a Date Night or Vacation

Like most people, my husband and I don’t live a very glamorous life. We go to work, supervise homework, feed little people, mow the yard, and run the family taxi service. I suppose it is quite adventurous to raise the next generation of Jesus-followers, but most days it looks a lot like leftover spaghetti. My husband and I schedule regular get-aways and date nights, but … [Read more...]

Choosing Our Words Carefully [plus FREE Scripture Printable!]

Proverbs 16:24 FREE Printable

A fight with your spouse. A busy day where it seems like everyone’s demanding something from you. Parents who bring their sick kids to the church nursery and infect your kids. A husband who doesn’t mow the lawn often enough. A wife who forgets to get the oil changed. Kids who are bored. Aging parents who won’t let you help them. A friend who wants to talk about why … [Read more...]

Talking about Sex with Your Spouse

Talking About Sex with Your Spouse

My husband and I used to fight about sex. A lot. It was an ongoing war with many battles. If you had told us when we were dating that one day sex would be a hot-button issue in our marriage, we would have thought you were crazy. It was all we could do to NOT have sex back then, so surely when we got married it was going to be incredible. Sex all the time. (Give me a minute … [Read more...]

Simple Ideas for Each of the 5 Love Languages

5 Love Languages

Years ago, when Dr. Gary Chapman penned the book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts, he proposed a very simple concept. Essentially, he says there are 5 ways people receive love: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. Each person has 1-2 Love Languages, and those methods are the vehicles by which they feel most … [Read more...]

How to Fight Fairly

How to Fight Fairly

I really like being right. And not only being right, but being completely recognized and acknowledged by everyone in the land as the one who is right. This, um, quality, might be perfectly acceptable if, say, I lived on a deserted island. But as a person living among people—and with a person—it’s proved… problematic. And as a person being conformed to the image of … [Read more...]

Grieving Well Together

Grieving Well Together

In the past three years, we have lost six family members and several close friends. Some were expected; some completely caught us off guard. Some we walked with through their illnesses, praying and believing God for healing. Some we held hands with while they took their last breath. It has been a lot to process, to grieve. I believe in many ways, we are still … [Read more...]