The Danger of a Culture Fixated on Children

The Danger of a Culture Fixated on Children

Just days before my first child was born, a couple in our church gave my husband and me some advice to which I didn’t pay much attention at the time. I realize now that it was a glorious piece of information that I would later come to cherish in my motherhood days. In the conversation, our dear friends (who happen to have SIX children…SIX!) said to us, “Just be sure that … [Read more...]

3 Habits You’ll Be Glad You Established as a Newlywed

My husband D.J. and I met one fall night during our junior year of high school. I wouldn’t exactly say it was love at first sight, but it was definitely a love that developed over time. One of my favorite things about our relationship is that it took about a year and a half for it to go from friendship to a dating relationship. It’s a good thing too because, little did we know, … [Read more...]

The Key to Living a Happy Life

The Key to Living a Happy Life

My husband and I were recently on a business reward trip to Southern California where the weather was a cool 77 degrees and the ocean views were breathtaking. When we arrived at the resort, we were told that our room was not ready yet, but we were welcome to walk around the property and they would call us as soon as it was available. We nodded our heads in agreement and spent … [Read more...]

How Enchiladas Helped Our Hospitality

How Enchiladas Helped Our Hospitality

Our purpose of sharing a meal or hosting a community group is to create an environment that fosters genuine community and conversation. We aren’t trying to win awards or the approval of others. People who are seeking a safe place to share life with others generally don’t care if the paper plates clash with the plastic cups or if the junk mail is stashed on top of the … [Read more...]

To The Wife Who Doesn’t Feel Sexy

To The Wife Who Doesn't Feel Sexy

When I look in the mirror before I get in the shower (even though I try not to), my eyes go straight to what I lovingly call “the shelf.” My c-section scar has caused my extra calories to pile themselves on top like a little shelf pushing up all the extra baby-carrying skin that comes from being stretched out like a balloon. It doesn’t seem to matter how much weight I lose, or … [Read more...]

Loving Your Spouse in the Ordinary

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My wife has a quality that I'm pretty sure I don't have. My wife loves for our lives to be as tidy as they can be. She LOVES when the house is clean. I'm not as adamant about the house being kept. Yes, it is nice to come home to a clean house, but I'm just as happy when it is a little messy. Life is messy, isn't it? If it wasn't for her, our house would be a wreck. We … [Read more...]

When the Saver and Spender Unite

When the Spender and Saver Unite

I’ll never forget the first time my husband told me he had received an overdraft fee on his checking account. We were dating, not yet engaged, and as we were having lunch and talking about work, he casually mentioned that he had been charged an overdraft fee. I almost choked on my sandwich. I tried to play it off cool, as if overdraft fees were not a cardinal sin in … [Read more...]

Are Your Bad Habits Breaking Your Marriage?

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My daughter, Sadie, has a very typical 11-year-old kind of bad habit: whining. Just for fun one day, I counted the times I had to say the words “tone of voice” to her, and that particular day it was thirteen. Thirteen is at least twelve times too many, so I decided it was time we had a real talk about her bad habit. In the middle of the conversation she said something … [Read more...]

So You Don’t Live on Easy Street… [plus FREE Scripture Printables!]

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There can be many, many pain points in a marriage—places that lead us to worry and anxiety, to fear the worst, places that lead us to question God. The reality of it is the worst could happen. Nothing in Scripture points to a life on Easy Street this side of Eternity. And it can feel even more painful when we look around and feel like we’re the only ones going through a … [Read more...]

When My Spouse’s Love Language Creeps Me Out

When My Spouse's Love Language Creeps You Out

Let me be completely honest: I am not a hugger. I don’t like greeting or leaving people with a hug; I feel weird when people play with my hair or touch my arm. I am just not a touchy person. My husband, however, is a touchy person. He loves hugs, hand-holding, and shows his affection with physical touch. As you can guess, this created a bit of friction for our first few … [Read more...]