Defending Boredom in Marriage

Defending Boredom in Marriage

“I’m bored.” This short sentence makes my brain swell to exploding, my blood boil, and my need to get in the car and drive to the nearest Barnes and Noble to escape eminent. When my kids utter these words I have so many automatic reactions: “Read a book, go outside, use your imagination….blah, blah, blah.” Or my favorite: “I can give you something to do, aka – chores.” I … [Read more...]

Married and…Adopting Internationally

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Editor’s Note: This is the next installment in our “Married and…” series where we will interview couples from all walks of life. It is our hope that you are encouraged by the stories of people who have similar journeys as you, who share the same dreams you have, who face the same obstacles you do, and who can remind you that your marriage isn’t the first one to experience the … [Read more...]

Protecting Our Fall Schedules

Protecting Our Fall Schedules

As school events, work events, sports, band, and dance practices are in full swing, I keep thinking about a situation that happened to my wife and me a couple years ago. One September day, my wife reached out to an old acquaintance to invite their family over for dinner. I had heard good things about their family, and I was excited to meet them. We knew that with 3 kids and … [Read more...]

MarriageRoots’ Low-Stress Christmas Guide [FREE Printable Checklist]

Christmas Checklist

Christmas is coming! If that statement sends a bit of excitement up your spine and then is immediately followed by a brief shudder of anxiety, then read on. Christmas is that unique time of year where Christian couples have an amazing opportunity—to fall into a trap. One of the biggest traps of the enemy in the modern Christmas-era is distracting and stressing out … [Read more...]

Sex Is Killing Our Kids

Sex Is Killing Our Kids

A few weeks ago I met with a group of Christian college students to speak on the topic of Sexual Atheism. Yes, you read that correctly. Sexual Atheism—there is such a thing—and it is most prevalent among Christian college students. Sexual Atheists on the outside look a lot like Christians. They go to church, read their Bible regularly, listen to Christian music, … [Read more...]

For Better or Worse: What to Do When “Worse” Gets Real

For Better or Worse: What to Do When “Worse” Gets Real

In the summer of 2012, we took a cross-country road trip. Somewhere in the mountains of North Carolina, after eating a big breakfast and then trying to read in the very back seat of the minivan, our daughter got carsick. This was a turning point in the life of our family. Not for the kid who vomited scrambled eggs all over herself, but for her brother, who witnessed … [Read more...]

5 Things I Wish I’d Told Myself After My Miscarriage

5 Things I Wish I Could Have Told Myself After My Miscarriage

The time after my miscarriage was one of the most difficult seasons I’ve had to go through; here are five things I wish I could go back and tell myself: 1. Please don’t be mad at the friends and family who do not acknowledge your loss. Really, you have to let it go and move on. Do not hold on to the hurt and anger you feel. It will do you no good. Remember, six months … [Read more...]

Married and…Foster Parents

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Editor’s Note: This is the next installment in our “Married and...” series where we will interview couples from all walks of life. It is our hope that you are encouraged by the stories of people who have similar journeys as you, who share the same dreams you have, who face the same obstacles you do, and who can remind you that your marriage isn’t the first one to experience the … [Read more...]

The Perks and Struggles of Marrying and Starting a Family in your 30s

Marrying & Starting a Family in your 30s

Our story, while unusual to some, is becoming more common. Having dated occasionally throughout our 20s, we both found ourselves single past the age of 30 wondering if marriage would ever be a possibility. Encouraged (persuaded?) by others in our lives to consider the world of online dating, we met via eHarmony and married nine months later, when Shelley was 31 and … [Read more...]

The Art of Being a Disconnected Parent

The Art of Being a Disconnected Parent

You should be a disconnected parent. Harsh, we know. It feels weird to say, even to think, but it’s true. In our nearly three years as parents we have learned one thing: raising small humans is tiring. Who knew such tiny people could be so exhausting? And when we are at the end of our rope, we have little patience, less compassion, and we’re not very pleasant to be around. … [Read more...]