Getting Help with Your Porn Problem

Getting Help with Your Porn Problem

The Barna Group, a Christian research and resource company, released a new study in 2016 called The Porn Phenomenon. It revealed a lot of disturbing information about the state of porn usage among Christian men and women, such as: 40% of practicing Christians say they’d rather not use porn, while 60% said some porn or all porn usage is ok. 16% of practicing Christians … [Read more...]

To The Wife Who Doesn’t Feel Sexy

To The Wife Who Doesn't Feel Sexy

When I look in the mirror before I get in the shower (even though I try not to), my eyes go straight to what I lovingly call “the shelf.” My c-section scar has caused my extra calories to pile themselves on top like a little shelf pushing up all the extra baby-carrying skin that comes from being stretched out like a balloon. It doesn’t seem to matter how much weight I lose, or … [Read more...]

Are Your Bad Habits Breaking Your Marriage?

pexels-photo-104511

My daughter, Sadie, has a very typical 11-year-old kind of bad habit: whining. Just for fun one day, I counted the times I had to say the words “tone of voice” to her, and that particular day it was thirteen. Thirteen is at least twelve times too many, so I decided it was time we had a real talk about her bad habit. In the middle of the conversation she said something … [Read more...]

When My Spouse’s Love Language Creeps Me Out

When My Spouse's Love Language Creeps You Out

Let me be completely honest: I am not a hugger. I don’t like greeting or leaving people with a hug; I feel weird when people play with my hair or touch my arm. I am just not a touchy person. My husband, however, is a touchy person. He loves hugs, hand-holding, and shows his affection with physical touch. As you can guess, this created a bit of friction for our first few … [Read more...]

Caught Off Guard in the Bedroom

Caught Off Guard in the Bedroom

Sex. It seems like such a short, simple word, but it has so much power—power to greatly enrich a marriage or to destroy it. I have personally experienced both sides of this. During a season of my marriage, sex was used as a weapon and became THE issue that caused bitterness and anger between my wife and me. At one of the worst points, I would describe it as a quiet rage that … [Read more...]

Talking about Sex with Your Spouse

Talking About Sex with Your Spouse

My husband and I used to fight about sex. A lot. It was an ongoing war with many battles. If you had told us when we were dating that one day sex would be a hot-button issue in our marriage, we would have thought you were crazy. It was all we could do to NOT have sex back then, so surely when we got married it was going to be incredible. Sex all the time. (Give me a minute … [Read more...]

Let’s Talk About Our Husbands

Let's Talk About Our Husbands

Dear Wives of the World, I get it. Your life is crazy-town. I know this because all of our lives seem to be filled with endless rounds of errands, work, kids, homework, sports, church, cooking, cleaning, bills, and—OH, MY WORD—I could go on and on. Just living our lives can be exhausting. There are days when I look at my to-do list and realize several of the things on it I … [Read more...]

Simple Ideas for Each of the 5 Love Languages

5 Love Languages

Years ago, when Dr. Gary Chapman penned the book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts, he proposed a very simple concept. Essentially, he says there are 5 ways people receive love: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. Each person has 1-2 Love Languages, and those methods are the vehicles by which they feel most … [Read more...]

Sex Isn’t a Trump Card

rsz_death_to_stock_marzocco_coffee_10

Confession: Sex used to give me so much power over my husband. I would freely portion it out and get pretty much anything I wanted. If it had been a long day at the office and I was exhausted, I knew that if I hinted to my husband that he might get lucky later then he would be much more willing to give our baby a bath or help with supper. A few long kisses and he might even … [Read more...]

Why We Schedule Date Nights in Advance

Why We Schedule Date Nights in Advance

At the end of January, we celebrated 16 years of marriage. We dated for three years before we got married, so at this point in our lives I have been with him for almost half of my life. Just yesterday we were planning our lives together, and now we have three children who are 12, 10, and 8. Time moves so quickly, so we want to make sure that we are wisely investing our time in … [Read more...]