Married and…Adopting Domestically

Editor’s Note: This is the next installment in our “Married and…” series where we will interview couples from all walks of life. It is our hope that you are encouraged by the stories of people who have similar journeys as you, who share the same dreams you have, who face the same obstacles you do, and who can remind you that your marriage isn’t the first one to experience the … [Read more...]

Why I Don’t Have Sex with the Lights Off

Why I Don't Have Sex With the Lights Off

I am not a supermodel. If you knew me, that statement would probably make you laugh out loud. I am extremely average: average height, average weight (size 12ish, on a good day), and average beauty. I think. So when I say that I never have sex with the lights off, I want you to know that it’s not because I think my body is so rockin’. When I first got married my body was … [Read more...]

13 Not-So-Cheesy Valentine’s Ideas [Plus, a Giveaway!]

13 Not-So-Cheesy Valentine's Ideas [Plus, a Giveaway!]

We see you rolling your eyes over there. Hear us out: We’re not saying you have to celebrate Valentine’s Day. We know the argument for it being just another day on the calendar. Some of us on the MarriageRoots Team don't officially celebrate Valentine's Day either. But what does it hurt to do something special for your spouse on a day that’s specifically set aside to celebrate … [Read more...]

It Takes Courage to Get Out of a Marriage Rut

It Takes Courage to Get Out of a Marriage Rut

Remember how the Israelites, God’s chosen people, wandered in the wilderness for 40 years before entering the Promised Land? They left Egypt, enabled, led and protected by the unmistakable hand of their miracle-working God, and embarked on a journey that should have lasted 11 days. Eleven days. Instead of crossing over into the land of promise after a … [Read more...]

Sex Changes Everything

Sex Changes Everything

You forget to say thank you when he changes the baby’s diaper. You keep washing the dishes in the morning as he walks out the door, not thinking to see him off to work. You can’t remember the last time you and he had a conversation that wasn’t about the house or the kids, or had more than 10 words in it for that matter. You feel estranged, lonely, sad, and wonder why your … [Read more...]

Defending Boredom in Marriage

Defending Boredom in Marriage

“I’m bored.” This short sentence makes my brain swell to exploding, my blood boil, and my need to get in the car and drive to the nearest Barnes and Noble to escape eminent. When my kids utter these words I have so many automatic reactions: “Read a book, go outside, use your imagination….blah, blah, blah.” Or my favorite: “I can give you something to do, aka – chores.” I … [Read more...]

Not Keeping Record in the Bedroom

Not Keeping Record in the Bedroom

When my wife and I got married, my aunt gave us a “treasure box” with an explanation to drop in a quarter every time we, ahem, stopped to “treasure” each other. Later, we found out that the more current version is the “Passion Pig,” where you use a piggy bank for the same purpose. It was all in fun, and my wife started buying up piggy banks for all her unmarried friends. … [Read more...]

More Time with My Spouse :: Something’s Gotta Give


When the baby cries to be held one more time. When the daughter wants to be taken just one more place. When the son wants to buy one more game. One more. One more. How close is the rope to fraying? Sometimes just one more pull. One more feeling of pressure, and a snap will come. It’s physics. A rope is created to withstand only so much pressure before it gives. … [Read more...]

Dating Your Spouse Isn’t a Luxury


“Get in,” he grins mischievously, as he opens the passenger door of his pride and joy—a 1984 Volvo with blue, chipped paint and a manually-controlled sun roof. We had just eaten dinner in our ‘76 Airstream Argosy travel trailer and were looking for memories to make when Matt has the ingenious idea. Already in the country, we don’t have far to go before we reach our … [Read more...]

Giving Your Spouse the Benefit of the Doubt


We all have expectations of our spouse. Some of these expectations come in the form of daily tasks to be completed, such as meal planning or yard maintenance. Other expectations are met emotionally, through intentional communication or sexual intimacy. If effective communication is occurring in the marriage, these expectations are clear. For example, I know my husband … [Read more...]