Lysa Terkeurst says, “Determine to pray more words over your marriage than you speak about your marriage.” Ouch. As beautiful as it is in theory, what kind of effort are each of us making to do this…realistically?
A good starting point is a commitment to fervent prayer on behalf of your spouse.
We put together this list of Scripture, along with a FREE printable daily guide, to help you as you (re)commit to praying over your spouse. Of course you don’t have to pray Scripture over them every time you pray for them, but there is power in doing it regularly.
For one, praying God’s Word is modeled for us in the Bible itself in both the Old and New Testament. Even Jesus modeled praying Scripture for us.
But also praying the Word focuses us on what’s most important. It steers us to the Eternal over the #firstworldproblems. It saturates our minds in Truth and helps our affections to align with that Truth. And, bonus, the more we spend time in Scripture, the more it is hidden in our hearts.
This guide is just a starting point. We narrowed it down to 7 areas of your spouse’s life that they need prayer: spiritual growth, personal growth, your marriage, family relationships, friendships, church involvement, and their workplace.
It is our prayer that the Lord uses them to strengthen your love for Him, as well as your spouse, and that your marriage is strengthened because of your commitment to labor on behalf of your spouse before the throne of God.
Sunday: Pray for Your Spouse’s Spiritual Growth
Pray that your spouse would treasure God over everything else. [Psalm 73:25-26]
Pray that your spouse would grow in the grace and knowledge of Christ. [2 Peter 3:18]
Pray that your spouse would fear the Lord and in doing so gain wisdom. [Proverbs 9:10]
Pray that the Word of Christ will dwell richly in your spouse, with thankfulness in their heart toward God. [Colossians 3:16]
Pray that your spouse would fight against the temptation and take every thought captive to obey Christ [2 Corinthians 10:4-5] and would trust that the Father will be faithful to provide a way of escape against every temptation. [1 Corinthians 10:13]
Monday: Pray for Your Spouse’s Personal Growth
Pray that your spouse would offer their body as a living sacrifice as an act of worship. [Romans 12:1]
Pray your spouse will discern what is helpful for them, and that they will treat their body as a temple of the Holy Spirit and glorify God in that body. [1 Corinthians 6:12, 19-20]
Pray that your spouse will be a person of integrity. [Proverbs 11:2]
Pray that your spouse would live a life of generosity. [2 Corinthians 9:7]
Pray that your spouse would take refuge in the Lord in times of trouble. [Psalm 46:1]
Pray that your spouse would seek wisdom from God, who gives generously to all without reproach. [James 1:5]
Pray for knowledge and discernment for your spouse that they may approve what is excellent and be pure and blameless for the day of Christ and be filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ, to the glory and praise of God. [Philippians 1:9-11]
Tuesday: Pray for Your Marriage
Pray that you and your spouse would lean into and grow in your roles as husband and wife. [Ephesians 5:22-23]
Pray that you and your spouse would be patient and kind, not envious or boastful, not arrogant or rude, that you wouldn’t insist on your own way, that you wouldn’t be irritable or resentful, that you wouldn’t rejoice in wrongdoing, but that you would rejoice in the truth. Pray you would bear all things, believe all things, hope all things, and endure all things, and that your love never ends. [1 Corinthians 13:4-8]
Pray you would put on the Lord Jesus Christ and make no provision for the flesh, to gratify its desires. [Romans 13:14]
Pray that you desire each other. [Song of Solomon 7:10]
Pray that you do not deprive each other sexually. [1 Corinthians 7:1-5]
Pray that you would not lie to one another [Colossians 3:9] but speak to each other with gracious words. [Proverbs 16:24]
Wednesday: Pray for Your Spouse’s Family Relationships
Pray that your spouse will lead your children in the discipline and instruction of the Lord. [Ephesians 6:4]
Pray that your spouse will be humble, gentle, patient and loving in all family relationships. [Ephesians 4:2]
Pray that your spouse will be kind, tenderhearted, and forgiving. [Ephesians 4:32]
Pray that your spouse will speak life with the power of their tongue. [Proverbs 18:21]
Thursday: Pray for Your Spouse’s Friendships
Pray that your spouse will be surrounded by wise friendships. [Proverbs 13:20]
Pray that your spouse will strive for peace and holiness in friendships, and that no bitterness springs up. [Hebrews 12:14-15]
Pray that your spouse will have authentic friendships where they are safe to confess sins to each other and pray for each other. [James 5:16]
Pray that your spouse, in all friendships, will proclaim the kingdom of God and teach about the Lord Jesus Christ with all boldness and without hindrance. [Acts 28:31]
Friday: Pray for Your Spouse’s Church Involvement
Pray that your spouse will devote themselves to the Church—to teaching, fellowship, to the breaking of bread, and the prayers. [Acts 2:42]
Pray that your spouse will do the good works which God prepared beforehand for them to do. [Ephesians 2:10]
Pray that your spouse will use the gifts God has given them to glorify God and serve the Body. [Romans 12:5-6]
Pray your spouse will love others in the Church as brothers and sisters. [Mark 3:35]
Saturday: Pray for Your Spouse’s Workplace
Pray that whatever your spouse does, in word or deed, they will do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father, through him. [Colossians 3:17]
Pray your spouse would do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than themselves. Pray your spouse would look not only to their own interest, but also to the interest of others. [Philippians 2:3-4]
Pray your spouse would not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit, and serve the Lord. [Romans 12:11]
Pray your spouse would live peaceably with all. [Romans 12:18]