Missing Opportunities by Worrying

The other day I was listening to one of my favorite podcasts, Urban Achiever. If you listened to alternative Christian music in the 90’s, then you should check out this great podcast hosted by Billy Power.

Missing Opportunities by Worrying

In an interview with Mike Lewis, Mike talked about how he and his wife went on a mission trip to Africa. In his words, he said Africa landed on him. Because of the experience, Mike travels to Africa often now. He’s also involved in mission work in Haiti.

Mike said he and his wife are currently in a season of “yes.” As a couple, they are saying yes and giving.

What does a season of “Yes” mean?

I guess you could call it creating margin, being intentional, or thoughtfully blessing others. Or you could take it literally and say, “Yes” and meet a need you see or hear about. That’s strange and a little scary, isn’t it?

Let’s rewind and look at the survey that helped kickstart Marriage Roots. Twenty-five percent of the people we polled said they wished they gave more. A few people wrote that they struggled with trusting God for provision in their lives. Those two statements are intertwined. I know it’s hard for us to freely give with one hand when our other hand is clenched so tightly that we’re white knuckled. But what are we desperately clutching?

Jesus said, “For this reason I say to you, do not be worried about your life, as to what you will eat or what you will drink; nor for your body, as to what you will put on. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothing? Look at the birds of the air, that they do not sow, nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not worth much more than they? And who of you by being worried can add a single hour to his life?” (Matthew 6:25-7, NASB)

Are you worried about your life? If it were possible to add an hour of life by being worried, I’d be on track to rival Methuselah’s record. I worry about work. I worry about the kids. I worry about bills. I worry that the AC isn’t efficient enough. I worry. I worry that I worry too much.

Yet Jesus tells us that our Heavenly Father will take care of us. I forget to remember that sometimes. I’m thankful that my wife is quick to remind me of Jesus’ words when I’m worrying about this or that. Because when we know in our heads and trust in our hearts that God will take care of us, we can step out and say yes.

We got a check in the mail the other day. We’d overpaid some property taxes and got a refund check. My gut reaction? Throw it in savings. My wife had other, better ideas, and we used that unexpected money to bless others. Sometimes, not every blessing is one to hold for yourself.

I can’t tell anybody how to trust God for provision because I’m trying to figure it out too. I can’t give you three steps to being more generous. What I can do is encourage you to rethink how you view your money, possessions, abilities, and time.

Instead of owners, consider yourself and your spouse as stewards. A steward administers as the agent of another.

We read in Psalm 24:1 (NASB), “The earth is the LORD’s, and all it contains, The world, and those who dwell in it.” In light of that, maybe we need to loosen our grip because what we’re squeezing isn’t ours.

Talk to your spouse about trusting God for provision. Talk about giving. Then ask yourselves how best you can use that with which you’ve been entrusted.

Maybe the answer you find will lead you to say yes!


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A member of the MarriageRoots team, Kyle Edminson is a handsome, witty, loving husband and father. He is originally from Louisiana but he now calls DFW home. Kyle is by no stretch of the imagination an expert on marriage (or much else for that matter) but he hopes to encourage husbands and wives to love and respect each other, communicate wholeheartedly, and seek God in marriage. And have fun–can’t forget fun.

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