3 Habits You’ll Be Glad You Established as a Newlywed

My husband D.J. and I met one fall night during our junior year of high school. I wouldn’t exactly say it was love at first sight, but it was definitely a love that developed over time. One of my favorite things about our relationship is that it took about a year and a half for it to go from friendship to a dating relationship. It’s a good thing too because, little did we know, … [Read more...]

Caught Off Guard in the Bedroom

Caught Off Guard in the Bedroom

Sex. It seems like such a short, simple word, but it has so much power—power to greatly enrich a marriage or to destroy it. I have personally experienced both sides of this. During a season of my marriage, sex was used as a weapon and became THE issue that caused bitterness and anger between my wife and me. At one of the worst points, I would describe it as a quiet rage that … [Read more...]

How We Boost Our Marriage Without a Date Night or Vacation

How We Boost Our Marriage Without a Date Night or Vacation

Like most people, my husband and I don’t live a very glamorous life. We go to work, supervise homework, feed little people, mow the yard, and run the family taxi service. I suppose it is quite adventurous to raise the next generation of Jesus-followers, but most days it looks a lot like leftover spaghetti. My husband and I schedule regular get-aways and date nights, but … [Read more...]

Choosing Our Words Carefully [plus FREE Scripture Printable!]

Proverbs 16:24 FREE Printable

A fight with your spouse. A busy day where it seems like everyone’s demanding something from you. Parents who bring their sick kids to the church nursery and infect your kids. A husband who doesn’t mow the lawn often enough. A wife who forgets to get the oil changed. Kids who are bored. Aging parents who won’t let you help them. A friend who wants to talk about why … [Read more...]

Simple Ideas for Each of the 5 Love Languages

5 Love Languages

Years ago, when Dr. Gary Chapman penned the book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts, he proposed a very simple concept. Essentially, he says there are 5 ways people receive love: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. Each person has 1-2 Love Languages, and those methods are the vehicles by which they feel most … [Read more...]

How to Fight Fairly

How to Fight Fairly

I really like being right. And not only being right, but being completely recognized and acknowledged by everyone in the land as the one who is right. This, um, quality, might be perfectly acceptable if, say, I lived on a deserted island. But as a person living among people—and with a person—it’s proved… problematic. And as a person being conformed to the image of … [Read more...]

Grieving Well Together

Grieving Well Together

In the past three years, we have lost six family members and several close friends. Some were expected; some completely caught us off guard. Some we walked with through their illnesses, praying and believing God for healing. Some we held hands with while they took their last breath. It has been a lot to process, to grieve. I believe in many ways, we are still … [Read more...]

When Your Blended Family Doesn’t Blend

When Your Blended Family Doesn't Blend

I sat across the room from her in my office each week. She was fifteen. Her parents had divorced when she was 4. They had been fighting over her ever since. Hundreds of thousands of dollars worth of court costs, counseling sessions, attorney fees, and custody evaluations. She had almost no memory of her parents living in harmony. She was numb, hated marriage, and hated divorce … [Read more...]

Trying to Make a Household Run More Smoothly

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For many couples, household chores can be one of the top sources of marital conflict. Finding a way to communicate your needs and work together with gracious understanding may take time and some trial-and-error, but is well worth the effort. Jena Shockley started out with a system for managing chores, but it didn't necessarily work as well as she'd hoped, but eventually … [Read more...]

How to Treat My Spouse :: 4 Scriptures Worth Memorizing

How to Treat My Spouse :: 4 Scriptures Worth Memorizing

I’m a Louisiana gal, born and raised. If you mention fried shrimp po’boys, I will probably swoon. So when my husband had the privilege of officiating the wedding of one of our students in New Orleans this past weekend, it was just lagniappe ("happy extra") to an already full life. I ate enough calories to last me until Thanksgiving, was completely enchanted by the über New … [Read more...]