Letting God Decide What We Do and Don’t Have Time For

We live in a culture that glorifies busyness, and Christian families are no different. Most of us can't possibly discuss plans with another family or couple without checking our family calendar, our spouse's calendar, and our kids' calendars. For many of us, if God called us to do something outside of the box, we'd have to look long and hard at our calendars to see if we could … [Read more...]

Why We Schedule Date Nights in Advance

Why We Schedule Date Nights in Advance

At the end of January, we celebrated 16 years of marriage. We dated for three years before we got married, so at this point in our lives I have been with him for almost half of my life. Just yesterday we were planning our lives together, and now we have three children who are 12, 10, and 8. Time moves so quickly, so we want to make sure that we are wisely investing our time in … [Read more...]

Establishing Healthy Boundaries with Your In-Laws

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My husband and I grew up 30 minutes away from one another. Every weekend my family would make the drive from our small town to the city we now call home, and we passed his family’s house countless times. (Of course, I never knew he lived there until our paths crossed four years ago.) Thinking about the man I wanted to marry someday, I always imagined and hoped that he … [Read more...]

Managing the Tension Between Work and Home

Managing the Tension Between Work and Home

“You are a husband and father first, before you are a pastor.” With this declaration, based on 1 Timothy 3:4-5, my wise friend and mentor began my ordination charge. He then shared how his failure to build this priority into his own ministry had cost his family dearly. Years of unintended neglect had sown seeds of bitterness and dysfunction in his home. More than a … [Read more...]

15 Ideas for Starting a Christmas Tradition with Your Spouse

15 Ideas for Starting a Christmas Tradition with Your Spouse

Decorating the tree. Attending the Christmas Eve service at the church. Driving around and looking at Christmas lights. Making holiday candies and goodies for parties. Family traditions get ramped up at Christmastime. And rightly so, there are so many fun things to do! So many, actually, that it can be difficult to fit everything into what seems like a short and fast … [Read more...]

Dealing with the In-Laws This Holiday Season

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Ah, Christmas—that magical time of year when holiday music is piped into your every waking moment, parties with goodies abound, and every Hallmark movie has a predictable, happy ending. There are so many things we can rely on to happen around the holidays and, for me, that’s one of the things that makes it special. Even in chaos, I like predictability. What’s one more … [Read more...]

Different from Our Parents, Starting in the Kitchen

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Supermarkets have changed in the last thirty years. Indeed, they’ve had more than a face-lift since my childhood in the eighties, but the change I speak of is not the updated décor or the appearance of Redbox kiosks. Since those golden years, I have witnessed the appearance of “organic” foods, along with the disappearance of the time-worn question “paper or plastic?” Paper … [Read more...]

MarriageRoots’ Low-Stress Christmas Guide [FREE Printable Checklist]

Christmas Checklist

Christmas is coming! If that statement sends a bit of excitement up your spine and then is immediately followed by a brief shudder of anxiety, then read on. Christmas is that unique time of year where Christian couples have an amazing opportunity—to fall into a trap. One of the biggest traps of the enemy in the modern Christmas-era is distracting and stressing out … [Read more...]

The Art of Being a Disconnected Parent

The Art of Being a Disconnected Parent

You should be a disconnected parent. Harsh, we know. It feels weird to say, even to think, but it’s true. In our nearly three years as parents we have learned one thing: raising small humans is tiring. Who knew such tiny people could be so exhausting? And when we are at the end of our rope, we have little patience, less compassion, and we’re not very pleasant to be around. … [Read more...]

Traveling Without the Kids

Traveling Without the Kids

Just over a week ago, I dropped my son off at his grandparents’ house, and hopped on a jet plane for an eight-day cruise with my husband. As I was walking out the door, saying goodbye to my son, I promptly started to cry. I quickly apologized, blaming the fact that I’m pregnant. My precious father-in-law simply stated, “It would be just fine to cry even if you weren’t … [Read more...]