My Mental Illness and My Marriage


Marriage is hard. Two people with different backgrounds, different baggage, different habits, and different expectations deciding to pledge their life to each other is a recipe for disaster. It’s also a recipe for beauty and holiness. I can honestly say that there is nothing in my life—not motherhood, friendship or family—that has shaped my relationship with God more … [Read more...]

Glad We Didn’t Know the Pain that Was Coming

Glad We Didn't Know the Pain That Was Coming

Marriage’s ultimate purpose is to point us to Christ. When things are going really well, marriage mirrors the gracious and selfless love of the Savior. But more times than not, it is the shortcomings in our marriage that illuminate the magnitude of what Christ did for us. This year felt like one major shortcoming for me, and it may have been the first time that I fully … [Read more...]

How to Treat My Spouse :: 4 Scriptures Worth Memorizing

How to Treat My Spouse :: 4 Scriptures Worth Memorizing

I’m a Louisiana gal, born and raised. If you mention fried shrimp po’boys, I will probably swoon. So when my husband had the privilege of officiating the wedding of one of our students in New Orleans this past weekend, it was just lagniappe ("happy extra") to an already full life. I ate enough calories to last me until Thanksgiving, was completely enchanted by the über New … [Read more...]

You’re Allowed to Be in a Bad Mood

You’re Allowed to Be in a Bad Mood

It would all start with one of us being in a bad mood. Early in our marriage, we would over-analyze each other’s moods. "What’s his problem?" "Why won’t she smile at me?" "He needs to snap out of it." "She sure is being difficult." We would badger each other by asking repeatedly, "What’s wrong? Is it something I did?" until finally the bad-mood spouse would snap, which … [Read more...]

Healing from a Miscarriage

Miscarriage & Infertility - My Family’s Story

Like most people, I didn’t know a lot about miscarriage until my best friend had one when we were 27. Then, over the next few years, I knew too much. That same friend had another one, her sister had two of her own, and then my own sister lost three babies in less than a year. As a result, having my own miscarriage became one of my worst fears. I watched these sisters of mine … [Read more...]

Married and…Adopting Domestically

Editor’s Note: This is the next installment in our “Married and…” series where we will interview couples from all walks of life. It is our hope that you are encouraged by the stories of people who have similar journeys as you, who share the same dreams you have, who face the same obstacles you do, and who can remind you that your marriage isn’t the first one to experience the … [Read more...]

It Takes Courage to Get Out of a Marriage Rut

It Takes Courage to Get Out of a Marriage Rut

Remember how the Israelites, God’s chosen people, wandered in the wilderness for 40 years before entering the Promised Land? They left Egypt, enabled, led and protected by the unmistakable hand of their miracle-working God, and embarked on a journey that should have lasted 11 days. Eleven days. Instead of crossing over into the land of promise after a … [Read more...]

Giving Your Spouse the Benefit of the Doubt


We all have expectations of our spouse. Some of these expectations come in the form of daily tasks to be completed, such as meal planning or yard maintenance. Other expectations are met emotionally, through intentional communication or sexual intimacy. If effective communication is occurring in the marriage, these expectations are clear. For example, I know my husband … [Read more...]

Questions I Ask Myself Before Speaking About My Husband


“I wish my husband was more like yours.” This is not meant to be boastful by any means, but I have actually received that compliment many times. My husband and I have often heard, “Y’all are the cutest,” or “Relationship goals: Be like Tyler and Nikita.” I’m going to be real—it feels good when people say that. I think my husband is awesome, and I’m glad other people do … [Read more...]

Marriage 101 :: Do You Need a Refresher?


I don’t think Wal-Mart even waited until the Fourth of July stuff was cleared out. Row upon row of school supplies sprouted up, mid-summer it seems. Don’t get me wrong—I love school supplies. “I would send you a bouquet of newly sharpened pencils, if I knew your name and address…” (Name that movie!) And now it’s August, and “back-to-school” really is upon us. Some … [Read more...]