To The Wife Who Doesn’t Feel Sexy

To The Wife Who Doesn't Feel Sexy

When I look in the mirror before I get in the shower (even though I try not to), my eyes go straight to what I lovingly call “the shelf.” My c-section scar has caused my extra calories to pile themselves on top like a little shelf pushing up all the extra baby-carrying skin that comes from being stretched out like a balloon. It doesn’t seem to matter how much weight I lose, or … [Read more...]

Are Your Bad Habits Breaking Your Marriage?

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My daughter, Sadie, has a very typical 11-year-old kind of bad habit: whining. Just for fun one day, I counted the times I had to say the words “tone of voice” to her, and that particular day it was thirteen. Thirteen is at least twelve times too many, so I decided it was time we had a real talk about her bad habit. In the middle of the conversation she said something … [Read more...]

When My Spouse’s Love Language Creeps Me Out

When My Spouse's Love Language Creeps You Out

Let me be completely honest: I am not a hugger. I don’t like greeting or leaving people with a hug; I feel weird when people play with my hair or touch my arm. I am just not a touchy person. My husband, however, is a touchy person. He loves hugs, hand-holding, and shows his affection with physical touch. As you can guess, this created a bit of friction for our first few … [Read more...]

Caught Off Guard in the Bedroom

Caught Off Guard in the Bedroom

Sex. It seems like such a short, simple word, but it has so much power—power to greatly enrich a marriage or to destroy it. I have personally experienced both sides of this. During a season of my marriage, sex was used as a weapon and became THE issue that caused bitterness and anger between my wife and me. At one of the worst points, I would describe it as a quiet rage that … [Read more...]

Simple Ideas for Each of the 5 Love Languages

5 Love Languages

Years ago, when Dr. Gary Chapman penned the book The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts, he proposed a very simple concept. Essentially, he says there are 5 ways people receive love: Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch. Each person has 1-2 Love Languages, and those methods are the vehicles by which they feel most … [Read more...]

Sex Isn’t a Trump Card

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Confession: Sex used to give me so much power over my husband. I would freely portion it out and get pretty much anything I wanted. If it had been a long day at the office and I was exhausted, I knew that if I hinted to my husband that he might get lucky later then he would be much more willing to give our baby a bath or help with supper. A few long kisses and he might even … [Read more...]

Married and…Adopting Domestically

Editor’s Note: This is the next installment in our “Married and…” series where we will interview couples from all walks of life. It is our hope that you are encouraged by the stories of people who have similar journeys as you, who share the same dreams you have, who face the same obstacles you do, and who can remind you that your marriage isn’t the first one to experience the … [Read more...]

Why I Don’t Have Sex with the Lights Off

Why I Don't Have Sex With the Lights Off

I am not a supermodel. If you knew me, that statement would probably make you laugh out loud. I am extremely average: average height, average weight (size 12ish, on a good day), and average beauty. I think. So when I say that I never have sex with the lights off, I want you to know that it’s not because I think my body is so rockin’. When I first got married my body was … [Read more...]

It Takes Courage to Get Out of a Marriage Rut

It Takes Courage to Get Out of a Marriage Rut

Remember how the Israelites, God’s chosen people, wandered in the wilderness for 40 years before entering the Promised Land? They left Egypt, enabled, led and protected by the unmistakable hand of their miracle-working God, and embarked on a journey that should have lasted 11 days. Eleven days. Instead of crossing over into the land of promise after a … [Read more...]

I Thought I Was Good at Communicating…and Then I Got Married

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“It’s all about communication.” Any time I have asked for marriage advice, those are usually the first words I hear. People say that as long as I communicate with my husband, then things will go more smoothly and we can enjoy a deeper relationship. To be honest, when I first heard these words, I was somewhat confused. I mean, how can a person not communicate in a … [Read more...]