Letting God Decide What We Do and Don’t Have Time For

We live in a culture that glorifies busyness, and Christian families are no different. Most of us can't possibly discuss plans with another family or couple without checking our family calendar, our spouse's calendar, and our kids' calendars. For many of us, if God called us to do something outside of the box, we'd have to look long and hard at our calendars to see if we could … [Read more...]

Managing the Tension Between Work and Home

Managing the Tension Between Work and Home

“You are a husband and father first, before you are a pastor.” With this declaration, based on 1 Timothy 3:4-5, my wise friend and mentor began my ordination charge. He then shared how his failure to build this priority into his own ministry had cost his family dearly. Years of unintended neglect had sown seeds of bitterness and dysfunction in his home. More than a … [Read more...]

How Our Intentional Giving Plan Works for Us

How Our Intentional Giving Plan Works for Us

There are a lot of ways to bless others. Some ways don’t cost you a dime—acts of service, listening, speaking words of encouragement, etc.—but many times pulling out your wallet is the best way to bless someone. Whether you pay for someone’s meal, leave a generous tip to a waiter who is clearly having a rough day, invite another couple over for dinner, or pay an expense … [Read more...]

Why We Aren’t a Super Couple

Why We Aren’t a Super Couple

It has been a crazy whirlwind for my husband Zach and me these past couple of months. We married in June of this year, Zach started his job as a civil engineer that same month, and not long after that, my school started back up again. We have our weeks full of work hours, study times, and household chores. We are new to this life of finding a balance of work, school, and each … [Read more...]

Walking with Your Spouse through Uncertainty

Walking with Your Spouse in the Uncertainty

Our relationship started wrapped in mystery; I was doing a research paper debunking the science behind online dating and came across his profile. He lived five hours away, but he was cute and his picture was clearly of him on a mission trip. That’s the Western Christian Girl’s aphrodisiac. A quick message sent, followed by emails and late-night phone calls. I was … [Read more...]

Your Wife Is Not a Porn Star

Your Wife Is Not a Porn Star

My husband grew up in the “good-ole-boy” South. Football was king, your mom was queen, you pledged allegiance to flag, and porn was a rite of passage into manhood. Not only did his dad introduce him to pornography, but he knew there was ongoing use of it and ignored it in a manly polite way. My husband and his friends would watch it together. It was a normal part of life … [Read more...]

7 Ways Married Couples Can Serve Singles in the Church

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With singles now comprising over half of the American population, many of you probably have some really good friends who are single. And if you spend any time talking to them, you’ll hear them lament that they struggle to find their place in the local church. If you think about it, so much of what takes place in church life is geared towards married couples and families. … [Read more...]

Your Wife Is Uniquely Equipped: Invest in Her

Your Wife Is Uniquely Equipped: Invest in Her

I watched my wife as she sat there, reading through Scripture with her friend, Bible commentaries scattered around the little round table where they sat. Add in a cup of coffee, and this is an everyday sight where we live. But this was a communist country on the opposite side of the world, where having access to Bible commentaries is actually kind of mind blowing. My … [Read more...]

Miscarriage :: It Was His Dream, Too

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The death of a dream—that’s what a miscarriage is. It’s many other things, but in essence it is a dream for children and a family, which you’ve carried for most of your life, that's ripped away. Most serious dating relationships eventually lead to The Talk: “Do you want kids? How many do you want? How long do you think we should wait before we have kids?” … [Read more...]

The Power of My Husband’s Encouragement

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So, so many things compete for our attention daily—work, home, church, children, laundry, and even Facebook. For women, motherhood alone can become so consuming that it can be easy to ignore, or inadvertently overlook, the things that God is calling us to do because there’s just so much on our plates already. If anyone knows the power of a husband’s encouragement towards … [Read more...]