Trusting Him at All Times–Even with Car Repairs

Car Troubles – Time to Worry or Pray?

I drive a 1994 Acura Integra which I purchased in 1997. It is in great shape, and I still enjoy driving it. Last year I was driving in town, and my car lurched violently two or three times. I thought to myself, “Was that a problem with the car, did I hit some bad potholes, or did my right foot have a spasm?” It did not happen again that day, so I thought nothing more of … [Read more...]

When Your Job Impacts Your Marriage

When Your Job Affects Your Marriage

I quit my job a few weeks before I got married. It wasn’t a good separation on my part. I wouldn’t even call it a “conscious uncoupling.” I felt disrespected by my bosses, so I reacted immediately and quit. And it felt great! I channeled my inner Johnny Paycheck. Did I mention this happened a few weeks before I got married? Looking back, this was one of the dumbest … [Read more...]

Sex Is Killing Our Kids

Sex Is Killing Our Kids

A few weeks ago I met with a group of Christian college students to speak on the topic of Sexual Atheism. Yes, you read that correctly. Sexual Atheism—there is such a thing—and it is most prevalent among Christian college students. Sexual Atheists on the outside look a lot like Christians. They go to church, read their Bible regularly, listen to Christian music, … [Read more...]

For Better or Worse: What to Do When “Worse” Gets Real

For Better or Worse: What to Do When “Worse” Gets Real

In the summer of 2012, we took a cross-country road trip. Somewhere in the mountains of North Carolina, after eating a big breakfast and then trying to read in the very back seat of the minivan, our daughter got carsick. This was a turning point in the life of our family. Not for the kid who vomited scrambled eggs all over herself, but for her brother, who witnessed … [Read more...]

Fighting for Your Spouse from Your Knees :: A Guide [FREE Printable Download]

Verses to Pray Over Your Spouse

Lysa Terkeurst says, “Determine to pray more words over your marriage than you speak about your marriage.” Ouch. As beautiful as it is in theory, what kind of effort are each of us making to do this…realistically? A good starting point is a commitment to fervent prayer on behalf of your spouse. We put together this list of Scripture, along with a FREE printable daily … [Read more...]

We Are Children of Divorce but Our Kids Won’t Be

We Are Children of Divorce but Our Kids Won't Be

My parents divorced after 24 years of marriage. At 16 years old, I was blindsided. I thought we had the perfect, happy, all-American home and when this incident occurred, it jerked the rug out from under me. My whole world was shaken. In some ways, it still shakes today—years later. My childhood home would literally become just a memory. That’s what community property … [Read more...]

The One Marriage Habit That Helps Everything Else

The One Marriage Habit That Helped Everything Else

There is one particular decision I made early in my marriage that has “divorce-proofed” our relationship, statistically speaking, more than any other. The relationship pro, Gary Chapman of 5 Love Languages, says this habit brings your chance of staying together into the 90+ percentile. The Bible says this habit should be as common as breathing. Heck, Dr. Phil … [Read more...]

In Sickness & in Health :: Anxiety, Depression & Panic Attacks

In Sickness & in Health :: Anxiety, Depression & Panic Attacks

You stare into each other’s eyes, more excited than you’ve ever been, as you repeat your vows—“in sickness and in health, for better or for worse…”—never expecting the “sickness” or “worse.” A few months go by and you find your wife sitting in a corner, crying. She can’t tell you why, and you have no idea what to do or how to help. We’ve been there. Many times. … [Read more...]

Why Our Weekly “State of the Marriage Address” Works for Us

State of the Marriage Address

“Oh, that’s easy, COMMUNICATION.” Hands down, this was the most common response I received when asking for marriage advice. Now, I know this sounds cliché. And, really, it is. But the reason why this is cliché? Because it’s true. Jess and I have been married for five years now, and we both discovered something pretty quickly: Marriage is hard! We’ve learned all too well … [Read more...]

How I’m Finding Freedom in Submission

How I’m Finding Freedom in Submission

The flowers were in place. The candles were lit. The bridesmaids were beautifully adorned in their navy dresses with their hair all in up-dos and ready to precede me. I, in white dress and white face, anxiously awaited the moment I would walk down the aisle. During the ceremony, our overzealous young preacher friend (who had preceded us in marriage by a whole 6 months) … [Read more...]