Grieving Well Together

Grieving Well Together

In the past three years, we have lost six family members and several close friends. Some were expected; some completely caught us off guard. Some we walked with through their illnesses, praying and believing God for healing. Some we held hands with while they took their last breath. It has been a lot to process, to grieve. I believe in many ways, we are still … [Read more...]

Trying to Make a Household Run More Smoothly

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For many couples, household chores can be one of the top sources of marital conflict. Finding a way to communicate your needs and work together with gracious understanding may take time and some trial-and-error, but is well worth the effort. Jena Shockley started out with a system for managing chores, but it didn't necessarily work as well as she'd hoped, but eventually … [Read more...]

Establishing Healthy Boundaries with Your In-Laws

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My husband and I grew up 30 minutes away from one another. Every weekend my family would make the drive from our small town to the city we now call home, and we passed his family’s house countless times. (Of course, I never knew he lived there until our paths crossed four years ago.) Thinking about the man I wanted to marry someday, I always imagined and hoped that he … [Read more...]

Questions I Ask Myself Before Speaking About My Husband

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“I wish my husband was more like yours.” This is not meant to be boastful by any means, but I have actually received that compliment many times. My husband and I have often heard, “Y’all are the cutest,” or “Relationship goals: Be like Tyler and Nikita.” I’m going to be real—it feels good when people say that. I think my husband is awesome, and I’m glad other people do … [Read more...]

5 Things I Wish I’d Told Myself After My Miscarriage

5 Things I Wish I Could Have Told Myself After My Miscarriage

The time after my miscarriage was one of the most difficult seasons I’ve had to go through; here are five things I wish I could go back and tell myself: 1. Please don’t be mad at the friends and family who do not acknowledge your loss. Really, you have to let it go and move on. Do not hold on to the hurt and anger you feel. It will do you no good. Remember, six months … [Read more...]

Walking with Your Spouse through Uncertainty

Walking with Your Spouse in the Uncertainty

Our relationship started wrapped in mystery; I was doing a research paper debunking the science behind online dating and came across his profile. He lived five hours away, but he was cute and his picture was clearly of him on a mission trip. That’s the Western Christian Girl’s aphrodisiac. A quick message sent, followed by emails and late-night phone calls. I was … [Read more...]

When Your Marriage Sparks a Deacons’ Meeting

When Your Marriage Sparks a Deacons Meeting

What if you fell in love with a Godly man or woman, sought the Lord and other wise counsel about your relationship, yet you still encountered opposition within your personal families and even within the Church? Vincent and Casie Smith know that struggle firsthand. An interracial couple, they walked a bumpy road to the altar because many--even within the Church--did not … [Read more...]

Miscarriage :: It Was His Dream, Too

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The death of a dream—that’s what a miscarriage is. It’s many other things, but in essence it is a dream for children and a family, which you’ve carried for most of your life, that's ripped away. Most serious dating relationships eventually lead to The Talk: “Do you want kids? How many do you want? How long do you think we should wait before we have kids?” … [Read more...]

More Than Buddies: Pursuing Male Friendships

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“Every single time we hang out, it’s basically an hour or two, at the most. I always have to initiate and it takes months to nail down.” “Babe, we had dinner with him and his wife a month ago. He’s just busy. Don’t overthink it.” “I know…I just…I wish he’d occasionally send me a text to ask how I’m doing. I stay in communication with him, and he usually responds, but … [Read more...]

The Night My Son Jesus Juked Me

The Night My Son Jesus Juked Me

My need for grace is best learned through my relationship with my wife and my children. There are some days when I think I’ve nailed it—work was productive, I came home and spent quality time with my family, we had meaningful conversations, there were opportunities to serve, lead, and love before bedtime, and everything is prepped and ready for the new day before I close my … [Read more...]