Why We Schedule Date Nights in Advance

Why We Schedule Date Nights in Advance

At the end of January, we celebrated 16 years of marriage. We dated for three years before we got married, so at this point in our lives I have been with him for almost half of my life. Just yesterday we were planning our lives together, and now we have three children who are 12, 10, and 8. Time moves so quickly, so we want to make sure that we are wisely investing our time in … [Read more...]

15 Ideas for Starting a Christmas Tradition with Your Spouse

15 Ideas for Starting a Christmas Tradition with Your Spouse

Decorating the tree. Attending the Christmas Eve service at the church. Driving around and looking at Christmas lights. Making holiday candies and goodies for parties. Family traditions get ramped up at Christmastime. And rightly so, there are so many fun things to do! So many, actually, that it can be difficult to fit everything into what seems like a short and fast … [Read more...]

Protecting Our Fall Schedules

Protecting Our Fall Schedules

As school events, work events, sports, band, and dance practices are in full swing, I keep thinking about a situation that happened to my wife and me a couple years ago. One September day, my wife reached out to an old acquaintance to invite their family over for dinner. I had heard good things about their family, and I was excited to meet them. We knew that with 3 kids and … [Read more...]

More Time with My Spouse :: Something’s Gotta Give


When the baby cries to be held one more time. When the daughter wants to be taken just one more place. When the son wants to buy one more game. One more. One more. How close is the rope to fraying? Sometimes just one more pull. One more feeling of pressure, and a snap will come. It’s physics. A rope is created to withstand only so much pressure before it gives. … [Read more...]

MarriageRoots’ Low-Stress Christmas Guide [FREE Printable Checklist]

Christmas Checklist

Christmas is coming! If that statement sends a bit of excitement up your spine and then is immediately followed by a brief shudder of anxiety, then read on. Christmas is that unique time of year where Christian couples have an amazing opportunity—to fall into a trap. One of the biggest traps of the enemy in the modern Christmas-era is distracting and stressing out … [Read more...]

The Couple That Vacays Together Stays Together

The Couple that Vacays Together Stays Together

My husband and I got married two years ago, and we had the best honeymoon possible. It was a dream. We spent the week in Mexico being waited on hand and foot. We didn’t have to worry about what to eat because when we were hungry, we’d simply call room service and have food delivered within minutes. We didn’t have to pick up after ourselves. Each afternoon when we returned to … [Read more...]

The Art of Being a Disconnected Parent

The Art of Being a Disconnected Parent

You should be a disconnected parent. Harsh, we know. It feels weird to say, even to think, but it’s true. In our nearly three years as parents we have learned one thing: raising small humans is tiring. Who knew such tiny people could be so exhausting? And when we are at the end of our rope, we have little patience, less compassion, and we’re not very pleasant to be around. … [Read more...]

What You Can Look Forward to When the Kids Are Gone


My husband and I hated the empty nest…for the first 15 minutes. Then we looked around at our quiet house and each other and thought: “Hmmm. Maybe…maybe this is going to be okay.” And you know what? It is. It has been. We spent 20 years raising two children to adulthood and then they did what they were supposed to do: they left home. And our lives shifted and buckled … [Read more...]

I Don’t Stress When My Wife Comes Home with Shopping Bags


Creating a family budget is a lot like taking your vitamins. Everyone knows they need to do it, but it’s the kind of thing that gets pushed to the back burner in the chaos of life. Why is it so easy to procrastinate the things that will make our lives—both individually and as a couple—better, easier in the long run? Probably because budgeting requires discipline, and who in … [Read more...]

Why I Scooted a Little Closer


I am selfish. It’s my nature. I don’t want to share! *stamps her foot like a two year old*  All day long I share my time. Instead of reading that book calling my name, I’m folding laundry to make sure those other humans living in my house aren’t naked. Instead of napping in the afternoon, I’m playing with blocks on the floor with my baby and making sure he doesn’t swallow … [Read more...]