To The Wife Who Doesn’t Feel Sexy

To The Wife Who Doesn't Feel Sexy

When I look in the mirror before I get in the shower (even though I try not to), my eyes go straight to what I lovingly call “the shelf.” My c-section scar has caused my extra calories to pile themselves on top like a little shelf pushing up all the extra baby-carrying skin that comes from being stretched out like a balloon. It doesn’t seem to matter how much weight I lose, or … [Read more...]

When My Spouse’s Love Language Creeps Me Out

When My Spouse's Love Language Creeps You Out

Let me be completely honest: I am not a hugger. I don’t like greeting or leaving people with a hug; I feel weird when people play with my hair or touch my arm. I am just not a touchy person. My husband, however, is a touchy person. He loves hugs, hand-holding, and shows his affection with physical touch. As you can guess, this created a bit of friction for our first few … [Read more...]

How We Boost Our Marriage Without a Date Night or Vacation

How We Boost Our Marriage Without a Date Night or Vacation

Like most people, my husband and I don’t live a very glamorous life. We go to work, supervise homework, feed little people, mow the yard, and run the family taxi service. I suppose it is quite adventurous to raise the next generation of Jesus-followers, but most days it looks a lot like leftover spaghetti. My husband and I schedule regular get-aways and date nights, but … [Read more...]

Talking about Sex with Your Spouse

Talking About Sex with Your Spouse

My husband and I used to fight about sex. A lot. It was an ongoing war with many battles. If you had told us when we were dating that one day sex would be a hot-button issue in our marriage, we would have thought you were crazy. It was all we could do to NOT have sex back then, so surely when we got married it was going to be incredible. Sex all the time. (Give me a minute … [Read more...]

VidAngel Review: Stream Edited Movies and TV Shows for $1

VidAngel Review

So I have a confession to make: My wife and I have watched dozens of R-rated movies and TV shows with TV-Mature rating. (All with zero profanity and zero nudity.) When we were dating, like most couples, we enjoyed going to see movies. One conversation that came up early on was about the boundaries for our entertainment. … [Read more...]

Let’s Talk About Our Husbands

Let's Talk About Our Husbands

Dear Wives of the World, I get it. Your life is crazy-town. I know this because all of our lives seem to be filled with endless rounds of errands, work, kids, homework, sports, church, cooking, cleaning, bills, and—OH, MY WORD—I could go on and on. Just living our lives can be exhausting. There are days when I look at my to-do list and realize several of the things on it I … [Read more...]

Sex Isn’t a Trump Card

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Confession: Sex used to give me so much power over my husband. I would freely portion it out and get pretty much anything I wanted. If it had been a long day at the office and I was exhausted, I knew that if I hinted to my husband that he might get lucky later then he would be much more willing to give our baby a bath or help with supper. A few long kisses and he might even … [Read more...]

Trying to Make a Household Run More Smoothly

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For many couples, household chores can be one of the top sources of marital conflict. Finding a way to communicate your needs and work together with gracious understanding may take time and some trial-and-error, but is well worth the effort. Jena Shockley started out with a system for managing chores, but it didn't necessarily work as well as she'd hoped, but eventually … [Read more...]

Why We Schedule Date Nights in Advance

Why We Schedule Date Nights in Advance

At the end of January, we celebrated 16 years of marriage. We dated for three years before we got married, so at this point in our lives I have been with him for almost half of my life. Just yesterday we were planning our lives together, and now we have three children who are 12, 10, and 8. Time moves so quickly, so we want to make sure that we are wisely investing our time in … [Read more...]

I Thought I Was Good at Communicating…and Then I Got Married

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“It’s all about communication.” Any time I have asked for marriage advice, those are usually the first words I hear. People say that as long as I communicate with my husband, then things will go more smoothly and we can enjoy a deeper relationship. To be honest, when I first heard these words, I was somewhat confused. I mean, how can a person not communicate in a … [Read more...]